How can my sex life work for me and not against me? What relational people know.

22/03/11 11:27 AM

John 8:3-11

As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery.  They put her in front of the crowd.  “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery.  The law of Moses says to stone her.  What do you say?”  They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger.  They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!”  Then he stooped down again and wrote n the dust.  When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman.  Then Jesus stood up again and said to her, “Where are your accusers?  Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”  “No, Lord,” she said.  And Jesus said, “Neither do I.  Go and sin no more.”

Some sex Advice from the Bible:

1. Take sharp measures to stay free from sexual sin.

1 Corinthians 6:13, 16-20

Our bodies were not made for sexual immorality.  They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies… And don’t you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her?  For the scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”  But the person who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.  Run away from sexual sin!  No other sin so clearly affect the body as this one does.  For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.  Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God?  You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price.  So you must honor God with your body.

Matthew 5:27-30

You have heard that the law of Moses says, ‘Do not commit adultery.’  But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart.  So if your eye even if it is your good eye causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away.  It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.  And if your hand even your stronger hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.  It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

Proverbs 6:25-28

Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.  For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread, but another man’s wife preys on your very life.  Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?  Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?

2. Whether you are single or married, consider it a gift to be enjoyed and thankful for.

1 Corinthians 7:1-4, 7

Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter.  Yes, it is good to live a celibate life.  But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife , and each woman her own husband.  The husband shall fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.  The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife… But I wish everyone were single, just as I am.  But God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness.

Romans 12:1-2, 12

And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God.  Let them be a living and holy sacrifice– the kind he will accept.  When you think of what he has done for you, is this too much to ask?  Don’t copy the behavior and the customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.  Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will realy is….  Be glad for all God is planning for you.

1Corinthians 10:13

The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience.  And God is faithful.  He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand.  When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

3.  Get forgiveness from God for anything you’re in conflict about from your sexual past (or present)

James 5:16

Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.  The earnest prayer of a righteous person power and produces wonderful results.

1 John 1:9

But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.

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